Low Desire

Low Desire

A lack of sex drive or discrepancy in desire with your partner can be very frustrating, anxiety-producing, or saddening. Low desire is one of the common reasons people contact a sex therapist for help.

Beth offers clients a structured program that contains the following elements:

  • Psychoeducation on sexual anatomy, physiology, sexual response cycle, and use of sexual aids

  • Mindfulness-based sensual touching of self and partner, supplemented by EMDR as appropriate, to decrease anxiety surrounding sexual touch

  • Enhancement of respect and sacredness in the physical relationship (if that is in the client’s belief system)

  • A two-pronged approach that focuses on both intimacy and eroticism

  • Support for the higher-desire partner, because both partners benefit from working together as a team

In order develop this program individualized to your needs, Beth specializes in identifying and treating the reasons the issue of low desire has developed. Some of the most common reasons include:

  • Hormonal or other medical changes

  • Decrease in attraction for your partner

  • Abuse or trauma

  • Large difference in sex drive between you and your partner

  • Couple or relationship issues

After completing a thorough assessment, Beth then uses that information to work with you (and your partner if appropriate) in implementing a mindfulness-based program that can improve the lower-desire partner’s ability to feel desire, arousal, and sexual pleasure as well as increase intimacy with your partner. If medical reasons need to be addressed, she will provide you with a referral and coordinate with the other specialists treating you.